Year 12 formal - HELP

Has anyone had experience going to a year 12 formal as a parent of a graduate? And I don't mean just turning up and getting the photos with the cool cars and red carpet and stuff, I mean paying big money to celebrate the formal with the kid. An invitation has been sent by the school and "all the parents are doing it"... 

You need to be a member of 1Eyed Eel to add comments!

Join 1Eyed Eel

Votes: 0
Email me when people reply –

Replies

  • Mate, it will come and go, don't feel pressured into doing anything you're not comfortable with.

    My daughter is having her formal this year, no big money spent here, I'm saving money to further her education, other parents can throw parties for teenagers with limit experience with alcohol. The only thing I want to pick up off my lawn is leaves, not drunken teenagers. 

    I've arranged for a bouquet of flowers, and for my daughter and her friends to be driven to their formal in a friends Ford XYGT Falcon.

    • You couldn't have picked a better car to organise for her. I don't think I was clear, the school have actually sent a note and it's 120 bucks per student and parent and I don't want to do it. Seems like an absolute toss and an invasion on the kids' celebrations. But apparently I'm wrong to think like that. 

      • Tough one, your opinion is not wrong but what do you do? I'm paying $130.00 for just her, for that, she gets a dinner and a dance. Mate, you don't have a choice, it will be the worst $120 you never spent, you don't want your child to miss their first real milestone. 

         

        • No problem paying 120 for the kid, just don't want to pay 240 more for two adults

          • Mate I know, we needed to pay $130.00 per extra person, kids don't want their parents there anyway, my daughter is going on her own and she's happy. She would have paid me $130.00 for me or my wife not to go lol.

             

  • This reply was deleted.
    • I'm glad I don't have a memory of my parents sitting and dining at my year 12 formal. It's not really about the money, it's my gf's kid and I don't understand the purpose, surely if you asked kids the vote would be "no parents". Unheard of when I was 18, parents took photos then farked right off. 

  • Yeah na fuck that , how embarrassing for the poor kids.   It’s like extreme helicopter parenting and the school are cashing in on it .  What kind of school thinks it’s acceptable to wallop parents in the sky rocket to accompany their children to a school dance ?  So if I’m understanding correctly it’s a fee for the privilege of being there , or is it a fee for services ( as in you get dinner and drinks ) ? 

    • The adults pay 120 each for the same dinner and drinks as the kids. 

      • $120 for dinner and drinks isn’t bad . What’s the problem / question ? I thought you had to pay just to go watch them . I wouldn’t go myself but in this day and age I guess certain cultures wouldn’t allow their daughters to go without the father keeping an eye on her virginity .

        • Hey Wiz, I guess the problem is that I find the whole fucken thing weird, I'd find it hard to find more than 10 percent of young people who'd actually want their parents at their formal. I mean they have the graduation ceremony for that sort of celebration and that doesn't involve spending up money and watching kids try to socialise under our watchful eye. It's tantamount to going to Schoolies week with them in my opinion. I'm not the most social person and struggle to get primed for even a wedding, where you're actually invited by the actual people celebrating, not by their authoritarian overseers. It's a Catholic school by the way.. 

This reply was deleted.

Latest comments

Randy Handlinger replied to Hell On Eels's discussion V’landys Backflips but the Lomax Case May Hinge on One Question
""
14 seconds ago
The Badger replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"6 man it may be but you can still only use 4 of them. 2 guys will be regularly getting splinters."
24 minutes ago
The Badger replied to Hell On Eels's discussion V’landys Backflips but the Lomax Case May Hinge on One Question
"They met and didn't agree an outcome. Court is still the option."
29 minutes ago
Randy Handlinger replied to Hell On Eels's discussion V’landys Backflips but the Lomax Case May Hinge on One Question
"particularly given PLV is discretionary and selective...that is a super polite way to describe corruption.
were introduced “to preserve the integrity of NRL...difficult to acheive when the man at the top is discretionary and selective.
a club who…"
54 minutes ago
Hell On Eels replied to Hell On Eels's discussion V’landys Backflips but the Lomax Case May Hinge on One Question
"PG,
He’s already shown he’s not willing to be rushed into a decision by the Lomax camp to suit them.
From all accounts, he’s a straight shooter and an excellent judge. I believe he’s a former equity barrister as well, so he’s experienced and…"
1 hour ago
Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐 replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"Coryn,  now that your mates- the nz Taranaki  rugby trainer has been booted out of Parramatta,  the team won't be running out of breath after 5 minutes in Round 1 again mate.   He really made a world of difference.    "
3 hours ago
EA replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"Nope he is fit finally! Listed at 26.I honestly got no idea what injury he had that caused him not to play the second half of the year. hopefully he has a strong year in nsw cup. I rate him more than Jezaiah and Samrani, as a backrower if he stays…"
3 hours ago
EA replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"Yep nothing flashy. Min contact."
3 hours ago
EA replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"We have 2 spots free I believe "
3 hours ago
Tin Tim replied to Hell On Eels's discussion V’landys Backflips but the Lomax Case May Hinge on One Question
"At the end of the day, V'landys thoughts on the matter won't play apart, the courts will go with facts & what's right. I think Lomax might get a shock & see out his arrangements with Parramatta but with a lighter sentence. The courts not there to…"
3 hours ago
LB replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"Even signing like a very experienced cup Hooker who has a handful of NRL games. Someone who will just do a job if asked. Meni Luke unfortunately might not be that.
 "
4 hours ago
Coryn Hughes replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"He's not a 6 but that's ok he's a team first guy I think you can plug him in anywhere and he'll give you what he's got.
I think with that 6 man bench now he's that guy bring him off the bench when you have a run of possession and let him ply his…"
6 hours ago
Coryn Hughes replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"I want to see us control the ruck and complete high.
I mentioned this last year we have to prepare like we are playing Melbourne that's the aim.
None of that BS we saw last year high error count ball movement that came with it.If we are to use the…"
7 hours ago
Coryn Hughes replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"I'm not a fan of Doorey he is limited and doesn't offer much imo at nrl level.Cup he's fine but outside of that he's a spot player.Use sparingly and he's just a depth player for me.Playing 13 is a ball runner and that's about it from what I can see."
7 hours ago
Coryn Hughes replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"Where is Will Latu EA please don't tell me he's still injured ?"
7 hours ago
Coryn Hughes replied to Cʜɪᴇғy Mclovin 🐐's discussion 1st teams list v sharks
"One of the things I like looking for out of our middles is in defense without the ball for consecutive sets how much linespeed we lose and what sought of motor our big guys have.
I saw this as a weakness in Tuivaiti last year there were a couple of…"
7 hours ago
More…

Keaon done deal

As of Thursday, December 11, 2025, South Sydney Rabbitohs forwardKeaon Koloamatangi has reportedly agreed to a deal with the Parramatta Eels, but it is not yet officially announced by the clubs.  Soon to be announced.

Read more…
14 Replies · Reply by Poppa Jan 9
Views: 2054

ANY MORE SIGNINGS???

I've been frustrated recently about the work we have been doing in the open market. Jonah's alright for a year and JDB is solid but he's getting old. I feel we need more in the forwards and some a replacement outside back. All I have seen is links…

Read more…
0 Replies
Views: 326

 

1EE Legends Tipping Comp

The 1 Eyed Eel tipping comp is back for 2026. You can join via this link on ESPN Footy Tips:https://www.footytips.com.au/comps/1ee_legends?p=1eyedeelPassword: 1eyedeelIf you are still in the comp from last season, you don't need to join again.Here…

Read more…
0 Replies
Views: 19

Vale Vince Fawcett

I seem to remember him always being on the verge of becoming one of the great UK exports, had a bit of a cult following with Eels fans too.Am I right that he had a blinder for the Eels against GB one night busting the line and scoring a runaway…

Read more…
1 Reply · Reply by KENDOZA yesterday
Views: 390

<script src="https://pagead2.googlesyndication.com/pagead/js/adsbygoogle.js"></script>
<!-- Sidebar -->
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<script>// <![CDATA[
(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});
// ]]></script>